i still remember watching this episode on the bus in 2018. i was going to break up with someone very soon. after watching gus' monologue at party i got off the bus just stood in the street and cried. "It's just easier for me to go "Mickey's the crazy one, I'm the healthy one." ...but i'm the crazy one." I had basically been told this in other words after experiencing major transgressions of neglect, betrayal, and disloyalty.
so often in het relationships we get siloed into binary stereotypes of the woman being the messy, sensitive, chaotic one and the man being the faultless, objective, rational one. gus is so fucked up because he is a real character. a real person who exists in many of our relationships with the same pernicious behaviours of people pleasing, avoidant attachment, passive aggression and selfishness.
i see a lot of men in the comments across the show not getting it. mickey's loud and brash wrongs are easy to see obviously. mickey also comes from a family where arguments are brought to the forefront and talked out instead of hidden and suppressed. arguably healthier than gus's WASPy practice of hold it in until you leak resentment and have an emotional outburst.
it was so validating to see gus finally recognize how the facade he has built convolutes his relationships from sincerity. and how he's been positioning mickey thru a lens of hysteria when her emotionality is often just a reaction to gus's lack of respect towards her. i cant believe i have tears in my eyes over this scene almost 5 years later. that one line from gus, it just sounds so close to what my ex had said to me. television really is a fantasy. i wish more had felt familiar than just that one line.
Wtf was this shit? Is Mickey magically became a real person, and somehow write/direct this fantasy episode so she can pull some unrealistic portrayal where she's a victim and Gus is the "crazy" one? Holy fuck this was really infuriating.
Review by ririBlockedParent2023-05-31T06:42:06Z
i still remember watching this episode on the bus in 2018. i was going to break up with someone very soon. after watching gus' monologue at party i got off the bus just stood in the street and cried. "It's just easier for me to go "Mickey's the crazy one, I'm the healthy one." ...but i'm the crazy one." I had basically been told this in other words after experiencing major transgressions of neglect, betrayal, and disloyalty.
so often in het relationships we get siloed into binary stereotypes of the woman being the messy, sensitive, chaotic one and the man being the faultless, objective, rational one. gus is so fucked up because he is a real character. a real person who exists in many of our relationships with the same pernicious behaviours of people pleasing, avoidant attachment, passive aggression and selfishness.
i see a lot of men in the comments across the show not getting it. mickey's loud and brash wrongs are easy to see obviously. mickey also comes from a family where arguments are brought to the forefront and talked out instead of hidden and suppressed. arguably healthier than gus's WASPy practice of hold it in until you leak resentment and have an emotional outburst.
it was so validating to see gus finally recognize how the facade he has built convolutes his relationships from sincerity. and how he's been positioning mickey thru a lens of hysteria when her emotionality is often just a reaction to gus's lack of respect towards her.
i cant believe i have tears in my eyes over this scene almost 5 years later. that one line from gus, it just sounds so close to what my ex had said to me. television really is a fantasy. i wish more had felt familiar than just that one line.